Navigating the teenage years can be incredibly tough, especially with the immense pressure to make the right choices. It’s essential to remember that continuous success isn’t mandatory; in fact, our failures can often lead to our most significant growth.
Recently, a 14-year-old girl opened up about her anxiety regarding the return of school after experiencing intense emotional struggles the previous year. She described feeling like she was on an emotional rollercoaster, often becoming overwhelmed by even the smallest challenges, which left her zoning out and losing track of her environment. The accompanying feelings of isolation and the pressure to constantly perform at her best weighed heavily on her shoulders.
When we discussed her hesitance to seek help from her general practitioner, she shared her worries about her parents attending her appointments with her. She feared that requesting privacy might trigger uncomfortable conversations or arguments later on. Looking ahead, she also expressed concerns about significant exam choices that could shape her future. The uncertainty surrounding her decisions and the pressure to make the right ones added to her anxiety.
Moreover, she mentioned difficulties with attachment in her friendships, feeling as though she often invests too much emotionally, which can end up pushing people away.
Annalisa Barbieri, who frequently addresses the concerns of young readers, acknowledged how prevalent these feelings are among teens today. She emphasized that, while adolescence can feel overwhelming, it’s ultimately a temporary phase.
“The intensity of your emotions is completely normal at this age,” Annalisa explained. “Your brain is going through significant changes, which might cause things to feel very black and white. Remember, this is a part of the process; things will improve.”
Annalisa also consulted Jason Maldonado-Page, a UKCP-registered adolescent psychotherapist, who recommended a unique way for the teenager to communicate with her parents. He suggested looking at photographs from their own teenage years. “This activity can help bridge the gap between adult perspectives and adolescent experiences,” Maldonado-Page noted.
When it comes to seeking medical help, Annalisa encouraged the teenager to consider whether she could visit her GP alone or communicate her need for privacy beforehand. This could create an opportunity for her to express her feelings more openly and possibly gain access to counseling services.
Maldonado-Page also urged her to think about what friendship and attachment mean to her personally. He recommended getting outdoors and engaging in physical activities, which can significantly boost mental well-being.
Finally, Annalisa reassured her that it’s perfectly alright not to be at your best all the time. Everyone, even parents, makes mistakes, and sometimes the most valuable reminder is to ask yourself, “What if everything is going to be okay?”
If you’re experiencing similar issues and would like to seek advice from Annalisa, feel free to reach out at [email protected]. Keep in mind that submissions are subject to certain terms and conditions, and comments on this topic are moderated to keep the conversation relevant.
